Comments on: Keep your mommy wars off of Facebook!

By: emily bilbrey

emily bilbrey — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:33:04 +0000

this is a good example of one of the truly sad aspects of internet socializing – i seriously can’t stand the hatred/passive aggression/AGGRESSION aggression that people become so comfortable with when interacting online… i constantly see mama writers with the more popular blogs being ripped apart for innocently mentioning a parenting preference/experience. i hate seeing that shit! makes me kind of happy that the only people who read my blog are friends!

i’ve personally taken a total stand against any kind of open criticizing/personal bashing/back-handed insulting whatsoever, no matter what my opinion might be on what i read from friends and bloggers. even during times a blogger/friend has been asking for advice or opinions and i can see that there’s a lot of arguing taking place in the comments, i tend to write the author personally so as not to participate in the chaotic negativity that tends to accumulate. call me crazy, i just think we mamas should support each other and be kind, despite differences in opinion/parenting methods… what a concept!

great post! cheers!

By: TheFeministBreeder

TheFeministBreeder — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 02:42:02 +0000

I had somebody on my blog who CONSTANTLY told me that I should be staying home and if I really wanted to I’d “find a way.” I was SOO freaking annoyed because I HATED going to work, but at the time there was ABSOLUTELY no way to stay home. Awhile later, my MIL helped us pay of tens of thousands in debt, and we cashed out my 401k so I could stay home, but that simply would not have ever been possible if my MIL hadn’t stepped in to help. I do NOT believe there is always “a way.” We got lucky. Plain and simple. It definitely makes me hate those SAHMs who have it so easy that they think all other women can be in their situation. Throat punch, indeed.

By: Shannon Kieta

Shannon Kieta — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:26:25 +0000

Man, I have ALL the respect in the world for working mom’s. I DON”T know how the do it. I CHOSE to stay at home when my son was born. My outlook was, I waited until I was 36 years old to have children, I am staying home to raise them. My own opinion. I was lucky enough to be financially able to do so. But it is a struggle sometimes. I miss working. I worked in the Laboratory at our local Hospital for 20 years. It’s hard to give that up. You feel a sense of self worth lost when you give up something you love after awhile. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade one moment of any day being with my kids, but sometimes you need a little “break”. I think it’s everyone’s God given opinion if they want to work or not when they have a child. It all goes to how well you treat your child when you are with them. That’s what counts! You could be home all day long and not pay any attention at all to your kid! So “T”, your opinion IS your own, but don’t ridicule other’s because of your beliefs. Everyone’s lifestyles are different. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go around!

By: Heather B

Heather B — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:48:17 +0000

I couldn’t agree more about FB and your SAHM response. While I understand that FB is public, some things are just not meant to be shared in that public setting, especially snide comments like that.

And thank you for being one of the SAHMs that realizes everyone has a different circumstance and has to do what is best for their child and family. I’ve never understood the statement “There’s always a way.”

By: S

Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:12:12 +0000

Love this post. Absolutely love it.

By: Nikita

Nikita — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:34:29 +0000

Ha!! So many women run their mouths over stuff that is just in their imagination!! AGH! Drive me nutso!

By: Megyn

Megyn — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:28:13 +0000

I’m an avid FB user and reader of this blog. However, this strikes me as quite humorous. First of all, both the blog and FB are means for people to discuss and relay their feelings and opinions. How is expressing them on one site any different than the other? Why not just avoid the drama on both sites instead of furthering the frustration? I often post emotional or political or whatever FB statuses, but I only have close friends and family as “friends”. It’s one of my outlets to let me voice my opinion whether people agree or not. It is also their right to voice their opinion back (as long as you allow comments on statuses or on your wall). There is nothing wrong with a little debate, it’s how people go about it on either type of site that is disgusting.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:06:10 +0000

Wow.. having a place to lay your head at night and some food in your belly is PRETTY FUCKING IMPORTANT TOO. What a bitch.

What is really truley the saddest is that she feels it is ok to post this on her ‘friends’ FB and that her children will have to grow up with a horribly passive aggresive C as a mom.

By: Mely

Mely — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:21:14 +0000

I just got into a facebook war over whether or not to cut your own toddlers hair. A mom posted that she gave an unfortunate hair cut to her 1 year old, and then war ensued between those who believe only professionals should be allowed to cut, and those (like me) who don’t think its worth the money or headache. Isnt facebook great!

By: Elise

Elise — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:38:29 +0000

As a work-outside-the-home mom (out of necessity, not choice) of a 14-month-old, nothing burns me up like people who claim “you could stay home if you really want to. Just cut corners and make it work”. No, I can’t stay home because we can’t make it work. I would love to stay home with my baby. However, I’m an attorney and make significantly more money than my husband. We have a modest home and cars, we do not live extravagently (haven’t as much as been out to eat with my hubby since April ‘09). However, together we have over $160K in student loans and live paycheck to paycheck. Before I returned to work from maternity leave, we poured over our budget in hopes that there was something – anything – we could do in terms of changing our lifestyle that would allow me to stay home. There simply is not. I would gladly sell our house and cars, live in a crappy apartment, eat crackers for dinner and take the bus if it meant I could stay home with my baby. It still wouldn’t be enough. Our monthly student loan payment is equivalent to a mortgage payment. Is this my own doing? Absolutely. I wish my 35-year-old mommy self could go back in time and tell my 22-year-old single self to skip law school and be debt free. To choose a more family-friendly profession. How could I have known at the time that my heart would break every. single. morning. when I leave my baby and go to work? And the guilt…it is oppressive. I had no idea how hard it would be to be a WOHM. I feel like I’m a crap employee because I no longer put in tons of hours and I feel like a crap mom because I don’t see my baby all day. So…I wish it were as easy as just “tightening the purse strings”. I would stay home in a heartbeat.