Comments on: My little caveman http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/ When it's more than a fever. Mon, 15 Mar 2010 02:11:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Timeouts may be working for 19 month old | Baby Rabies http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-12366 Timeouts may be working for 19 month old | Baby Rabies Fri, 11 Dec 2009 05:10:32 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-12366 [...] you ignore behavior that is timeout worthy, but I’ll get to that later. Remember how he was hitting his head really hard on random doors, walls, with toys and his hands? As hard as it was to not try to intervene, I took [...] [...] you ignore behavior that is timeout worthy, but I’ll get to that later. Remember how he was hitting his head really hard on random doors, walls, with toys and his hands? As hard as it was to not try to intervene, I took [...]

]]> By: carolyn http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10358 carolyn Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:11:30 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10358 When my son Lee was that age he would hit himself in the head and then reprimand himself by saying emphatically "Not nice Lee-Lee!" It didn’t last long. He quickly moved on to making fart noises and giggling hysterically. Unfortunately that second behavior was encouraged (and probably taught) by my DH. Ah, boys. When my son Lee was that age he would hit himself in the head and then reprimand himself by saying emphatically “Not nice Lee-Lee!” It didn’t last long. He quickly moved on to making fart noises and giggling hysterically. Unfortunately that second behavior was encouraged (and probably taught) by my DH. Ah, boys.

]]> By: erin http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10329 erin Thu, 12 Nov 2009 18:17:57 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10329 no kids of my own but there's a 13 year gap between me and my little brother - he absolutely despised sitting in his carseat so he would bash his head on the seat in front of him and literally spew snot out of his nose...not the easiest behavior to ignore :) no kids of my own but there’s a 13 year gap between me and my little brother – he absolutely despised sitting in his carseat so he would bash his head on the seat in front of him and literally spew snot out of his nose…not the easiest behavior to ignore :)

]]> By: Babyrabies http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10323 Babyrabies Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:23:35 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10323 LIndsey, I did read HTOTB and I have tried to use the methods... to a degree. I do find that if I just speak more simply to him, it helps, but I can't make myself do the whole caveman/match his level in public without laughing. I've tried. Lisa, oh, I know it's not crap :) Just feels like crap to me a little bit, but I know they are right. Thanks for the book rec. I will try to read that one. Like I said, I do get good response from him when I really stay calm and try to help him tell me what he wants. It's the whole him not understanding that he can't always get what he wants that I'm having a hard time conveying. As always, so nice to know I'm not the only one in this situation. LIndsey, I did read HTOTB and I have tried to use the methods… to a degree. I do find that if I just speak more simply to him, it helps, but I can’t make myself do the whole caveman/match his level in public without laughing. I’ve tried.

Lisa, oh, I know it’s not crap :) Just feels like crap to me a little bit, but I know they are right. Thanks for the book rec. I will try to read that one. Like I said, I do get good response from him when I really stay calm and try to help him tell me what he wants. It’s the whole him not understanding that he can’t always get what he wants that I’m having a hard time conveying.

As always, so nice to know I’m not the only one in this situation.

]]> By: Lisa http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10322 Lisa Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:10:22 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10322 I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss what your ped says as crap. 30 words is a teeny, tiny fraction of all tens of thousands of words we use a day. Ella has a ton of words and she still gets frustrated by not being able to communicate. Plus, there is the frustration of not being in control, that you are the boss of him all the time. There is a lot to be frustrated about at this age. I'd try the caveman talk more and reasonable talk less. I also really like a book I just read, "How To Talk so Your Kids Will Listen" by Adele Ferber. And all these stories make me glad I have a girl. :-) I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss what your ped says as crap. 30 words is a teeny, tiny fraction of all tens of thousands of words we use a day. Ella has a ton of words and she still gets frustrated by not being able to communicate.

Plus, there is the frustration of not being in control, that you are the boss of him all the time. There is a lot to be frustrated about at this age.

I’d try the caveman talk more and reasonable talk less. I also really like a book I just read, “How To Talk so Your Kids Will Listen” by Adele Ferber.

And all these stories make me glad I have a girl. :-)

]]> By: nanann http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10321 nanann Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:59:54 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10321 Just thought that I'd share you are definitely not the other one. My Julia (now 22 months) regularly hit her head when angry. What would get me is she would look for hard places -- if she did the sofa first by accident she'd go over to the tile kitchen floor and try again. The worst was concrete. I really hated the sound of the "thunk" when she hit her head on the driveway while playing outside, or the concrete floor at a restaurant where we ate outside. (and oh, the looks from fellow diners!) She eventually stopped a bit ago, but don't think I really did anything to help. She probably finally realized it hurt? Just thought that I’d share you are definitely not the other one. My Julia (now 22 months) regularly hit her head when angry. What would get me is she would look for hard places — if she did the sofa first by accident she’d go over to the tile kitchen floor and try again.

The worst was concrete. I really hated the sound of the “thunk” when she hit her head on the driveway while playing outside, or the concrete floor at a restaurant where we ate outside. (and oh, the looks from fellow diners!)

She eventually stopped a bit ago, but don’t think I really did anything to help. She probably finally realized it hurt?

]]> By: Shannon http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10320 Shannon Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:59:04 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10320 Noah once looked at me and bent down very slowly, keeping eye contact the whole time, and beat his head off the floor. i couldn't help it- i laughed my ass off at him. He hasn't done it again, so maybe laughter is the cure to showing him how ridiculous he's being? Noah once looked at me and bent down very slowly, keeping eye contact the whole time, and beat his head off the floor. i couldn’t help it- i laughed my ass off at him. He hasn’t done it again, so maybe laughter is the cure to showing him how ridiculous he’s being?

]]> By: Lindsay http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10312 Lindsay Thu, 12 Nov 2009 04:51:31 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10312 I'm expecting my first kiddo in a few weeks and have been reading WAY too many books, and recently read the Happiest Toddler on the Block. Have you read it or watched the video? The doctor describes toddlers as little cavemen and how to deal with them using language they'd understand. It's super interesting, although the method make you sound like a moron (if you've seen the video you know what I mean!) I’m expecting my first kiddo in a few weeks and have been reading WAY too many books, and recently read the Happiest Toddler on the Block. Have you read it or watched the video? The doctor describes toddlers as little cavemen and how to deal with them using language they’d understand. It’s super interesting, although the method make you sound like a moron (if you’ve seen the video you know what I mean!)

]]> By: Leslie http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10309 Leslie Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:53:56 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10309 My son does the same thing and if I'm holding him, he becomes this monster that tries to rip off the skin on my face, head butt me, and then try to rip the skin off of my hands. It's a treat, really. I think our boys are only a week apart (May 8) and apparently two little cavemen. My son does the same thing and if I’m holding him, he becomes this monster that tries to rip off the skin on my face, head butt me, and then try to rip the skin off of my hands. It’s a treat, really. I think our boys are only a week apart (May 8) and apparently two little cavemen.

]]> By: Babyrabies http://babyrabies.com/2009/11/11/my-little-caveman/comment-page-1/#comment-10308 Babyrabies Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:27:23 +0000 http://babyrabies.com/?p=1139#comment-10308 LOL @Reiza! I was reading along, thinking, ooh, maybe I should do that? LMAO. LOL @Reiza! I was reading along, thinking, ooh, maybe I should do that? LMAO.

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